Deacon Derrick and Mistianna

Welcome to Sacred Messy Marriage! We’re Deacon Derrick and Mistianna Barnes and we’ve been married for 25 years; we’ve also been working with engaged and married couples for over 20 years. We know marriage requires a lot of HARD work! Our marriage is messy, but it’s also a sacred gift given to us by God. We love each other more than we did 25 years ago and still give each other goosebumps. As a Catholic deacon couple we work with engaged and married couples to help them daily live out their “I DO”. 

As a visitor to our site, we hope we can give you some tools and the encouragement you need to do the same and stay married for a lifetime. We welcome you into our hearts, our love, and most of all our marriage. Remember to sign up to get our marriage tips. Together, we can make your messy marriage, the Sacred Gift God meant it to be!